Monday, February 22, 2010

Reality

Reality. Its not always what we see or perceive. I've been wanting to post about this for a few weeks now, but haven't had the chance. Sorry I haven't had any pictures lately, I will get back to that soon, promise. I just had this on my heart and wanted to get it out. Sometimes for me, I read people's blogs and get this feeling like everyone has it together and moms are at home teaching abc's and phonetics to their young while in the off time the children are engaging in imaginative play. Now, isn't that just ridiculous. I know that even for myself I tend to post the cutest pictures that just can't sum up what a true day is like. And that's ok. I will continue to do that, but lately I've been feeling like maybe I need to throw some reality in there. Maybe call it Funky Friday, Whiny Wednesday, or Sour Saturday and show the reality that, to me, being a mom is hard, it tries my patience, I feel ill-equipped, under prepared, and lots of times just plain insecure. There. I said it. I'm just trying to be real and honest. I hope I haven't come across cynical. I love my kids to pieces and they do make me smile a ton, but its not about that. Mommying has been harder on mind, body, and soul than I would ever have thought and I wanted to convey that. To quote a friend... "I think it’s important to be transparent on this journey... I think it’s only fair to share the whole story and not color it certain ways so that it looks different than what it really is."

6 comments:

  1. Right on...

    Being a parent is tough! I think your post is so true. And by sharing some of the 'reality' I think we will all bond together, identify with each other, and laugh through some of the hard days, instead of feeling like it's just us. I'm looking forward to the journey...

    MD

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  2. Ha! Went to comment, only to be preceded by my sweet hubby.

    Katie Girl, you are NOT alone in this! I was just struggling last week because I feel like Eli not talking a ton is somehow a reflection on me and my commitment to him through our days. Such a lie from the pits of hell! But it's so tough to put the lies aside and enjoy each day as a mommy, whether we're teaching ABC's or just trying to get through the day without losing our cool. Thanks for your transparency. It's somehow encouraging. Is that strange? Maybe I'll follow your lead on your new blog series. Maybe it will serve as encouragement for someone else. Let me know what you decide!

    Much Love,
    Jenna

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  3. Word! I know you and I have talked about this before, but it always hits me like a fresh word. With blogs, like most things, if I do not ask the Lord to guard my mind I begin to doubt, question, berate and judge myself and others. Thanks for sharing...talk to you soon!

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  4. thanks for sharing! you are NOT alone!

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  5. katie- love your honesty and let me be the first to say... all you moms are AMAZING! i don't care what you think or how you feel, it's totally true. the Lord has you right where he wants you. obviously, i can't relate to you on being a mom, but it's true that the "tough stuff" in life is where life truly happens and spurs us on to be better in every area of our lives. love you. see you tomorrow!

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  6. I have to agree with Addie---you are such an incredible mother to those 2 beautiful children!!!!! They are blessed to have such a rock solid mother and father in their lives.

    While I obviously haven't experienced motherhood yet, I have observed first-hand of how challenging, yet truly rewading, it is to be a mom. Every day I see clients and they express this same reality you describe--so I hope you can find comfort knowing that you are not alone and that a lot of mothers actually come/are required to attend counseling!

    Glad you shared this post and I can't wait to see more photos soon!

    Love you! MC

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